(Neurodiversity Week) A client once said to me, “I am exhausted — and I haven’t done anything wrong.” By most measures, her life was working. She was capable, thoughtful, and reliable. Yet internally, she felt like a disappointment to herself. Not because others had rejected her — but because the relationship she had with herself […]
“Do you have life figured out?“ A client recently asked me that during a coaching session. Not as a challenge, and not with irony — but as a genuine question. And in many ways, that’s what made it so telling. The question itself points to how deeply we’ve been taught to think of life as […]
Why “Willpower” is a Neurobiological Mirage In our productivity-obsessed culture, we have elevated “willpower” to the status of a moral virtue. We speak of it as a muscle to be flexed, a reservoir of character that separates the “disciplined” from the “unsuccessful.” But for the neurodivergent community—and indeed for anyone living under chronic stress—this narrative […]
The “Not Enough” Brain: Understanding Reward Deficiency Syndrome (RDS) in Men with ADHD If you have ADHD, you’ve likely spent your life feeling like you’re running on a treadmill that never quite reaches the finish line. You achieve a goal, you land the deal, you win the argument—and instead of feeling great about it, you […]
What is AI psychosis? “AI psychosis” is not a clinical or diagnostic term you’ll find in the DSM-5 or ICD-11. It’s a media and research commentary label that has emerged to describe cases where people develop delusional beliefs centred around interactions with AI chatbots such as ChatGPT, Claude, or Grok. It is when AI acts […]
“Wash your brush” you say? Is this about cleanliness? No, this isn’t a post about hygiene. Although it could be! This is about moving forward and adapting and changing when things no longer work for you. Not sure how they connect? Let me explain. When in high school I was gifted the most amazing hairbrush. […]
Recently while reading a book for pleasure (yes, I do that sometimes, not enough, but sometimes, you should try it too!), one of the characters complimented another on being prepared to name the conflict. Why? Because it equips them to attack the problem and not the person. When we “attack” the problem, not the person, […]
What is Weltschmerz? Why do I need to know to maintain my hope? The world is currently not in a happy place. We hear it. We see it. And we feel it. So many people I am talking to, myself included, have been feeling down, sad, anxious, tired and a bit hopeless. Suddenly most things […]
1. What Is Decision Fatigue? Decision fatigue describes the decline in quality of decisions following prolonged or repeated choice-making. It stems from the broader concept of ego depletion—where self-control and executive function draw on a limited pool of mental resources. When these resources are exhausted, individuals experience impaired judgment, greater impulsivity, and a tendency to […]
For many people, tiredness is simple: too little sleep means too little energy. Yet, for individuals with ADHD, the story is far more complex: hidden exhaustion of ADHD becomes a constant companion—one that is often invisible and misunderstood, yet profoundly affects daily functioning, work performance, and mental health. Sleep alone doesn’t solve the tiredness neurodivergent […]